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January 18, 2004
Friend-cest
I was hanging with the gals after Sex and the City tonight and we were talking about a particular pattern of someone (let's say a guy we'll call Skeet). Skeet apparently likes to date solely within his particular social circle. A group of guys and a group of girls all hanging out and he occasionally goes after one of the girls and then later starts dating another of the girls in the clique. We've determined this guy is into "friend-cest". Last night a guy who on Tuesday told me he was attracted to one of my friends asked me out. Call me crazy but I don't like to consider myself seconds, sloppy or otherwise. I'm not sure how Skeet's gal-friends put up with it.
Posted by mermu at January 18, 2004 11:50 PM
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Can you imagine - 20+ Karls and extended family on a nude cruise - this picture will entertain me all the way to Dallas today!
Posted by: Cynthia at January 20, 2004 07:34 AM
I think Skeet is a "playuh". And I'm not necessarily knocking serial friendcest I'm just saying I don't think it's for me. I don't think I could seriously date someone after someone I know was at one time in love with him. There's something about the relationship a guy has with a friend that would make me immune to him. That said, I don't feel that way about the friends of guys I've dated, but even then I just have this weird idea that you have to pick one. I wouldn't necessarily go on a nude cruise either but that doesn't mean I'm not knocking it. It's just something that I wouldn't do. I take it back...I will go on a nude cruise if it's for G'mas 90th.
Posted by: Mermu at January 19, 2004 11:28 PM
I agree with Meredith and Stepan. It really depends on Skeets motives. Is he trying to find a life partner? Is he trying to add another notch to his bedpost?
Posted by: mom (aka Rita) at January 19, 2004 10:44 PM
I agree with Meredith and Stepan. It really depends on Skeets motives. Is he trying to find a life partner? Is he trying to add another notch to his bedpost?
Posted by: mom (aka Rita) at January 19, 2004 10:42 PM
I was going to say basically what Stepan did--don't knock it too much b/c it's how you ended up with such a lovely brother-in-law, so it can't be all bad. And sometimes the best relationships begin as friendships.
Posted by: Elizabeth at January 19, 2004 09:10 PM
Don't knock all friend-dating -- sometimes you end up with someone wonderful :-) I don't think of it a sloppy seconds, I think of it as upgrading.
The problem with stranger-dating is that you have no way of knowing whether the tall, dark stranger is a creep -- with Skeet you know in advance. Of course, with a stranger you only have to tell youself "I should have known better" instead of "I did know better" in the aftermath.
Posted by: stepan at January 19, 2004 07:56 AM
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